When I’m Quick to Forget

“I will remember the deeds of the Lord; yes,

I will remember your miracles

of long ago.”

Psalm 77:11 (NIV)

My friend and I sat in front of the small fan blowing air on high and groaned about the unbearable heat of the summer. Temperatures were well into the 100’s and our families were suffering with no air conditioning in our homes.

Even swimming didn’t seem to help because the water temperature was so warm. “It’s only June and it’s 100 degrees,” my friend commented. “We haven’t even gotten to August!”

Two weeks later she called me with great news: “Tom is having air conditioning installed in our home! Can you believe it? We will have it by the weekend!” I was so excited for her. “Wow,” I said. “Sleeping in cool comfort all night!”

She chimed in “Putting on makeup that actually stays on my face and doesn’t run to my belly button.” We giggled like little girls at her great news.

As the summer continued on and the temperatures continued to climb, my friend enjoyed the coolness of central air; however we were not financially able to have it installed at our home.

The first day of August brought 109’ temperatures by 10 a.m. I had three fans blowing on high and windows open for a breeze but it did little to cool us off. I called my friend to chat. “I think this is the hottest day we have had this summer! We are roasting in our house! I am praying for some cooler temperatures soon,” I moaned.

But her response caused me to stop in mid-sentence. “Seriously Nancy. You think this is hot? I’ve seen a lot worse than today, or this summer for that matter. It’s not bad at all.”

Huh? What in the world had just happened? The weather hadn’t changed; in fact, it was hotter with each passing day. But what HAD changed was my friend’s perspective.

She was now sitting in a cool, air conditioned home and had forgotten how hot she had once been. The empathy we had shared concerning the summer heat was gone because her situation had changed. She had once been exactly where I currently was, but somehow, since it no longer applied to her, she had forgotten that fact.

            Sometimes we do the same thing, don’t we. Oh, not about air conditioning, perhaps, but about other, much more important issues.

For example, we see a young couple in the church struggling with finances and instead of remembering our same struggle and offering help and encouragement, we are quick to comment on how – if they were more careful budgeting – they should be able to make ends meet.  

We watch as a young mother unsuccessfully tries to push a shopping cart while holding on to three little ones who are intent on running away and hiding from her. We forget about the day our two year old hid from us for 30 minutes in the same store and instead give this woman an “if you were a better parent, your kids would mind” look when what we should be doing is offering to help her as she shops.  

The empathy that we should have as Christians is often lost as we forget what the Lord has done for us and respond with judgment and a lack of understanding instead of with compassion and support for whatever they are facing.

We need to always remember how the Lord directed our steps and got us through tough situations so that we can, in turn, encourage and help those around us who may be struggling as we once did.  

Father, so many times I am quick to judge, forgetting that when I have faced some of the very same situations that they are facing, you got me through each one. Help me to remember your goodness so I can be an encourager and not a discourager. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.

R.A.P. it up . . .

Reflect

• Have you ever forgotten what the Lord has done for you in the past and been quick to judge someone?

• When you faced the situation they are facing, was there someone who encouraged or discouraged you?

Apply

• Reflect on those times in your past when a Christian encouraged you as you struggled with a situation in your life.

• Determine to be that same kind of encourager to people around you as you keep your eyes open for opportunities to show the compassion and understanding of Jesus.

Power

• Psalm 77:11 (NIV) “I will remember the deeds of the Lord; yes, I will remember your miracles of long ago.”

• I Chronicles 16:11-12 (NIV) “Look to the Lord and his strength; seek his face always. Remember the wonders he has done, his miracles, and the judgments he pronounced…”

• Psalm 78:11 (NIV) “They forgot what he had done, the wonders he had shown them.”